Do you find it difficult to approach conversation in the dating world? It’s hard to gauge what’s appropriate, what’s too ‘over the top’, and what’s a little too much on the boring side!

And that’s why we’ve put this quick little guide together, for any and all anxious chatters who want to meet someone they can settle down with.

If in doubt, here’s what you should aim to talk about when you’re on a first date.

Start with Your Common Ground

It’s simply a nice little way to break the ice. A reminder about your common ground can make it feel easier to open up, find something else to talk about, and have a bit more fun.

But what is common ground? Well, when you know something about each other (since you have been chatting on and off through a dating app in a few weeks) raise such issues again. Sketch them a little, and then simply begin with those.

Alternatively, the common ground could just be how the two of you first met. If you’re both attending a DateinaDash event, you can strike up a conversation about what brought each of you here, which can snowball into so many other topics.

Anything You Find Fun

On a date, by the way, you have to be careful and always dwell on the things that you like and enjoy.

You do not want to waste your whole time unraveling some past trauma or discussing a recent break up. And not only would that probably kill the mood eff-em, but it would also probably be early enough to initiate these things to each other!

Rather, concentrate on the good things. When there is a TV show that you both enjoy, discuss the last episode. When you share something since you have a common hobby, be it video games, gardening or even kayaking, discuss it.

Talk about what you like, fill the air with it, and discuss with your date what you are both delighted with talking about.

Touch on What You Want From the Future

Yes, you do need to discuss what you want romantic and family life to be! But you need not be very particular.

In fact, many will think it highly embarrassing to attempt to take up any future discussion on the first date, and that is usually simply because they do not quite know how to put out-fielding questions.

Actually, you do not need to mention how many children you want to have or what types of house you would like to bring up your children!

All you have to do is to be aware that you have this in common goal. Otherwise one or both of you is going to be very unfulfilled should this go on.

It may not be easy to jumpstart a conversation when you are on a date. Nonetheless, it takes a little space to crack the ice. And when you break through that you can roll the ball after that—easy enough.